Isn’t it a beautiful feeling to be in love with someone special? Doesn’t it feel amazing to know how well your partner truly understands you and often meets your expectations?
Well, having healthy expectations in a relationship is a good thing, but sometimes, we often start setting unrealistic expectations that can harm our relationships. This is where things go wrong, often turning a beautiful relationship into a bitter one.
Setting high expectations for your partner means placing unachievable standards for them to meet. And when they fail to deliver, it can cause unpleasantness, disappointment, resentment and arguments. Needless to say, all these emotions can cause friction between you and your loved one and damage your relationship in the long run.
So, if you want to live happily with your partner, here are some unrealistic expectations that you need to avoid:
They Will Never be Attracted to Anyone Else
When you’re in love, your partner is an important part of your world and vice versa. But that doesn’t mean that they can’t notice or be attracted to anyone else. It is important to understand that your partner will be attracted to other people, but that doesn’t mean that they are being unfaithful or cheating on you.
Expecting your partner never to notice or admire someone else other than you is not realistically possible because you can’t stop them from looking at other people.
The Sex Will Always be Awesome
If you expect the chemistry that you shared with your partner in bed during the honeymoon period to continue throughout the years, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. As a couple’s relationship evolves and changes over time, so does their sex life. You can’t expect it to be great, always.
However, you and your partner can put in the effort to make it as good as you both want it to be by understanding each other’s needs and wants in the bedroom by communicating more. Also, another great idea to spark things and reignite passion is to go on a vacation, just the two of you.
Your Relationship Will Be Picture-Perfect
What you see is what you get. And that’s why many couples expect their love life to be as perfect as the love life of that perfect couple they see on social media. This is a big mistake because no relationship is perfect. On social media, most people’s posts are a highlight reel and usually airbrushed.
The truth is that all relationships go through highs and lows and are not always perfect. In fact, imperfections make a relationship real. If you expect your relationship to be perfect, you will never be able to appreciate your partner and enjoy all the good things in life th
at you are blessed with.
In our quest for perfection, we often overlook the small things that make our life incredibly beautiful and worth living. Thus, it becomes hard for us to stay happy and grateful for what we have.
The entire idea of making a relationship picture-perfect can put a lot of pressure on your partner, making them rethink and look for a relationship elsewhere where they will find acceptance and less pressure. So, embrace the imperfections of your relationship and cherish all the good things about your partner and around you to live a happy and content life.
There Will Be No Conflicts
No two people are the same. You and your partner are bound to have a difference of opinion at some point in life on just about anything. Expecting your partner to be supportive and agree with your opinion with no conflict at all is just not possible.
You just can’t have a relationship free of conflict. Even happily married couples have arguments all the time. In fact, conflicts are healthy when resolved amicably. Once resolved, it can lead to greater understanding between a couple, bringing them closer to each other than before. The more you understand each other, the better and stronger your bond will become.
They Will Change for You
When you’re in a relationship, you must accept your partner the way they are—with their weaknesses and flaws. If you get into a relationship thinking that your partner will become the way you want them to be, then that can damage your relationship.
Some partners are willing to change their appearance and habits, but not all. So, if you’re partner is ready to do as you say, then they are a keeper. However, if they are not, then accept the way your partner is. Don’t force your partner to change for you or anyone else.
This will only result in resentment on both sides as you will be setting yourself up for heartache and your partner may want to call it quits as they will feel that they are not valued or accepted for who they are.
Unrealistic expectations are mere fantasies and false hopes that can damage a relationship. They will ruin your idea of your partner, especially when they fail to fulfill the high expectations that you have for them. In simple words, unrealistic expectations can put your relationship in a hot mess and when things get way out of control, someone may eventually throw in the towel and walk out.
Save Your Relationship—Seek Help Before it’s Too Late!
Before things get out of control and both sides feel frustrated (because of too many high expectations to meet or unfulfilled expectations), it is advisable to seek help. Contact us for relationship advice. We, at Marriage Means Moore, are experienced in this domain.
We can help you and your partner understand each other better and develop strong communication skills so that you both can work past the challenges and barriers that you are encountering due to unrealistic expectations in your relationship. We can help bring you two closer. From couple retreats to marriage counseling, life and financial coaching, we specialize in a range of areas.
Discuss your expectations and problems with our compassionate relationship coaches and we’ll provide you the best advice to nurture a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship.