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First of all, when you approach your relationship with realistic expectations, you are less likely to fight the storms when they arrive. As a result the challenge is to learn how to appreciate, respect, and even embrace the other’s reality as being just as legitimate, justified, and sincerely held as your own. When you are …
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It’s Not Over Yet. Fight For Your Marriage. Did you know that stress, financial issues, infidelity, addictions, and personal changes are all factors that can lead to divorce? Yet, despite these challenges, research shows that married couples tend to be happier, healthier and wealthier than their friends who are not married. It’s not over yet! What …
Being in love is beautiful; it makes you feel like you are floating on cloud nine, it gives you butterflies in your stomach, and makes your heart race like never. Whether you are married or in a serious relationship that is close to marriage, your life feels complete, and that void does not feel so empty or vacant anymore.
Most relationships start off great. Especially when you are newlyweds, there is so much love, passion, romance, affection, and desire at the start, coupled with that ever-increasing zeal and energy to keep the spark alive. You go the extra mile to make your partner happy, do the little things that bring a smile on their face and want to cherish every moment.
Every year, couples spend thousands of dollars to make themselves look and feel better – gym memberships, skincare regimens, Botox and even laser treatments. Why shouldn’t you invest in your marriage? It is the most important relationship in your life. Marriage coaching can bring you greater happiness and – even better it can prevent divorce! Hiring a Marriage Coach is a Good Investment!
Think About This: The average divorce costs between $15,000 and $20,000. Marriage coaching is far less expensive, and much more valuable which makes it a lifetime investment. Hiring a Coach is a Good Investment! Click here for more information on Couples Coaching
You Did not Go to School for Relationships
We go to school from kindergarten through 12th grade to learn how to read and write and add and subtract. All so we can have a successful career. But where do we get educated on how to have successful relationships? After all, relationships are what life is about, right? A marriage coach will teach you relationships skills you need to help your marriage succeed.
Marriage Skills are Counter-intuitive
Ok so what you have been doing in your marriage is not working. That is because marriage skills are counter intuitive. If your efforts are not making you happy or bringing your spouse closer to you, you need support. A coach can help you see what needs to change and hold you accountable to making those changes.
Coaching is NOT Counseling
You need someone who has been there to guide you as you repair your marriage. A marriage coach has wisdom from her own life experience as well as her training that will help you figure how to heal your marriage. Where counseling focuses on listening, coaching focuses on taking action to fix the problems.
Marriage in Crisis
If your marriage is stressed, chances are you are experiencing a lot of fear and anxiety. You want to do the right things, but you are not sure what that is. Your relationship seems like a roller coaster – fine one minute, chaotic the next. A coach can show you which behaviors are damaging the relationship and teach you how to bring in more positive behaviors that will set you on the path to healing. Hiring a Coach is a Good Investment! For more information visit our website at Marriage Means Moore or Contact a Marriage Coach at 248.571.7040.
Coaches help couples move from where they are to where they want to be and recognize that each marriage is different. Coaches will not tell you what to do but will help you figure out what will work best for you as a couple.
If you feel the need to talk with a professional relationship coach, contact Marriage Means Moore for a FREE Consultation! Let us help save your relationship and rekindle the lost spark in your relationship.
By Antonio & Laura Moore – July 5, 2020 © 2020 Marriage Means Moore – Built Marriage Tough® All Rights Reserved
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The silent treatment is simply a poor form of communication that we have been using to get our way. When communication is difficult it can help to create some ground rules. It is time to give your partner (and yourself) permission to calm down and get things back on track TOMORROW IS NOT PROMISED!!!
Why do people use the silent treatment tactic?
Why do we continue to use ‘the silent treatment’ if it is so destructive? It goes back to basics—‘hurt people hurt people’—and research shows that ‘the silent treatment’ is particularly effective in causing damage to your relationship. No one wants to be on the receiving end of this form of treatment, and we all know it.
While not proud to admit we have used ‘the silent treatment’ in our marriage. We have rationalized it by telling our self we were just taking time to ourselves to think. While partially true, we knew our actions were also hurtful and did not quickly stop it. Can you relate?
Here are Five “Moore” Steps to resolve “The Silent Treatment”
1. Confront the behavior.
Just as we would confront a six-year-old who refuses to talk, we do the same for the adult in our lives. We must do this carefully because we don’t want to give the pouter extra clout. We should simply acknowledge that they have withdrawn and we want to give them an opportunity to talk it out effectively. Offer them the opportunity to talk, OR to take an agreed-upon timeout.
2. Hold them accountable for withdrawing.
We must make it clear that we notice the behavior, and now invite them to speak directly to you about whatever is bothering them. Additionally, you note to them that their behavior is hurtful. While you cannot make them talk, you can let them know you notice what they are doing.
3. Share your feelings with them.
As you invite them to talk directly with you, let them know the impact their withdrawal has on you. You might say something like this: “I’ve noticed that something seems to be bothering you. You seem to have withdrawn. I want to invite you to talk directly to me about whatever is troubling you. I also want to let you know that I find your prolonged silence to be very hurtful.”
4. If your mate chooses to talk, continue to have a healthy dialogue about the issue.
If they choose to talk to you, share your appreciation with them. Thank them for sharing, reinforcing positive behavior. This will be a quick fix to a potentially troubling situation. If they continue to give you ‘the silent treatment,’ you have no choice then to give them the space they are creating.
5. Be ready for connection when they choose to reconnect.
At this juncture, however, they will need to take responsibility for withdrawing in an unhealthy way and for creating more hurt in the relationship. Hold them accountable for withdrawing and share that you are ready to reconnect when they acknowledge the damage they have done by giving you ‘the silent treatment.’
In summary, silence is a particularly painful weapon and has no place in a healthy relationship. Taking a time out, agreed upon by both people, can be an effective way to get space to reflect, pray and consider a healthy response. You should allow for ‘time outs’ and must agree that ‘the silent treatment’ will never be tolerated.
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